Practising Kindness Will Transform Your Life
How you choose to act, behave and influence those around you has an impact on what you get in return.
Some days getting up out of bed is a struggle. I reach for my bottle of water on the bedside table, try to chug it down and prep myself to jump into action. Sometimes finding that spark is hard to do. But it’s always there, ready to be lit up.
During these initial moments of my morning, my mood is not quite reaching peak ‘Cassie’ levels, and coffee is a huge necessity. Once I’m in the mode, though, I’m hard to break out of; if I’m motivated, you can bet your damn dollar I’m going to get what I need doing.
It’s just who I am.
I like to believe I garnered my traits from my family — of which have always practised generosity, kindness and gratitude. They’ve made me who I am and if I didn’t have the traits I do now, there’s no way in hell I would have gotten through the last few months of my life.
That’s from a personal standpoint, obviously, but using kindness as your weapon has the ability to transform absolutely everybody’s day.
Whether you're hitting the 9 to 5 grind and hate your job, or you’re feeling the heat of parenting; you can make your life a whole lot easier by doing the same for others.
Put your personal emotions about your own sense of self aside, and acknowledge how you might be able to change someone else’s.
Why does this work?
Because when you give out positive energy to the world, you get it all back at you.
How to give positive energy to someone else
Last night I was scrolling through my Instagram feed, mindlessly flicking through stories. One struck my eye.
As a young mother (and soon to be mum to another), this particular person — let’s name her Anna for the sake of anonymity — had gone down to her local supermarket to get some much-needed groceries.
In the midst of the coronavirus pandemic, snatching up any essentials right now is painful. But after realising there was nothing left in the pantry, she hit the pavement with her reuseable bags in tow.
Once at the checkout, she recalled she had $90 left in her tight budget. Making ends meet can be hard, especially as a young family.
When the cashier totalled the bill and she realised she only had $71-odd dollars in hand, she asked them to cut the transaction off at this amount. She left behind a handful of essentials she had planned on taking home to her son and husband.
The emotions she described were an embarrassment. Acknowledging in the face of others that you can’t afford your shopping can be overwhelming.
But as she walked out of the shop with her remaining items, a woman stopped her in her tracks.
“I can’t help but notice you left behind a few items,” the woman said. Anna looked at her astonished, feeling slightly awkward in her place.
“No, I can’t accept that,” Anna said. “Really, thank-you, but I can’t.”
The woman — who was probably in her 40s herself, and no doubt dealing with the fallout of coronavirus too— took a $20 note out of her pocket.
“Please,” she said. “I feel like I have to do this. I want to do this,” she pleaded.
Anna’s day was completely flipped upside down. She had never experienced this kind of random act of kindness before.
What was an embarrassment before quickly turned into gratitude, appreciation and happiness — the kinds of emotions that people should be able to transmit onto others.
Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again .
Being kind and positive to another person doesn’t suck up all of the energy for your day. You won’t miss out on smashing your next deadline because you stopped to smile at someone.
You won’t feel any worse about your ‘situations’ just because you helped an old lady pick up the receipt she dropped in the car park.
Whether you’re having a bad day or not, you have the choice to turn someone else’s around. And that’s a pretty big responsibility.
What will you do with that opportunity?
Creating positive energy opens you to positive changes
There are actual scientific facts behind this notion that what you give out to the world comes right back at you.
In studies over the years, researchers have highlighted that negative emotions can rewire your brain to behave instinctively, rather than intuitively.
Negative emotions narrow your mind and zoom in on your thoughts. And sometimes these thoughts aren’t all that healthy.
It’s not quite karma, although the sentiment isn’t far off it. Ultimately, this kind of belief system works by assuming that every thought, feeling and action you give out to the Universe, will reflect the life you manifest thereafter.
When I was struggling at the beginning of 2020 — finding myself single and moving across town — my world was a pit of uncertainty.
I’ve never had to live with the discomfort of not knowing what I wanted or what was coming for me the next day. That’s a kind of unease I really don’t deal well with.
But what got me through each day (besides my amazing support network of friends and family) was the push I gave myself to bring positivity into everything I was doing in my day.
I became spiritual — found myself practising tarot and reading into manifestation a whole lot. To me, it worked. I’ve found peace and calm; potentially not entirely happy with where I am, but content nonetheless.
When I headed out the door for the day, I made it my mission to smile at the barista who handed me my almond cappuccino.
I made an effort to say hello to my old and new neighbours, in-between my moves.
I gave myself the responsibility of checking in with old friends as much as possible and made sure my family were okay, too.
Somehow, I knew that if I gave others around me the comfort and positivity I so very much craved at that point of time, I’d be okay.
And I was. I am. All of this positive energy and acts of kindness (as extremely simple as they were) have given me the ability to get up each day and tackle it like another chance at smashing my goals.
I ask you to do the same.
You won’t regret it — you’ll get further than you did when you put energy into feeling low or sour. Make use of the emotions you have and transform them into positive thinking and acts that can completely shift the days of both you and those around you.