Be Careful What You Say Around A Writer
We’ve got an innate ability to turn words into art or use them as weapons.
I can’t remember the first time I put pen to paper. I can’t imagine it was anything too impressive, but I do know my tendencies haven’t changed.
I’ve always used my own personal engagement with the world as inspiration for a bigger, broader picture — be that fictional or not. And for the most part of my life, it’s dictated where I’ve ended up.
Being a writer means you have the automatic, unconscious behaviour of taking words far beyond where they were meant to stop. You almost don’t see the lines reality tries to draw for you. Or if you do, you’re always crossing them.
Writers are the ever-connected artist
Whether it’s for the sake of always wanting a more exciting story out of life, or seeking the ultimate beginning, middle and end — we’re always ‘on’.
Our minds don’t turn off when we sleep; we dream of romance, thrillers and philosophical masterpieces.
Our bodies never rest; we’re always filled with the overwhelming emotion and tension our overactive imagination places on us.
But that’s what we embrace as artists and creatives. We take the bad with the good and we run with it; far away into a land of our own, down a rabbit hole.
This isn’t all doom and gloom — this is the celebration of minds that are forever connected to a world that demands always something more. We feed it to them when they’re not satisfied with their own stories, creating a sense of faux adrenaline to fuel society when it’s too complacent.
I’ll warn you now, and only now:
Being friends, partners, relatives or colleagues to a writer means you’re allowing yourself to be a part of their narrative.
The words you say will affect how we feel. The actions you choose will put us into a mess of overthinking. It also makes us capable of being better friends, lovers, husbands, sons and daughters.
But that’s the very beauty of having a writer in your life: they’re something unpredictable — consider them the driver’s seat of a rollercoaster you never really asked for.
Ella Marija Lani Yelic-O’Connor — of which some of you may know as Lorde — once sung about the perils of being a (song)writer.
Bet you rue the day you kissed a writer in the dark
Now she’s gonna play and sing and lock you in her heart.
She describes what we all feel as wordsmiths: the unprecedented burden of feeling every kind of emotion with an unequivocal amount of sensitivity.
We don’t forget the things you do to us.
We don’t forget the hate you spin.
We don’t forget the love you give.
Writers don’t pull stories out of anywhere
You can bet your bottom dollar that your favourite author didn’t write his/her best book out of pure luck. They would have been guided by their own experiences, emotions (past or present) and intuition.
As artists, we establish all of this through our anecdotal connections to the world.
For example, I’m writing this because I’ve had a particularly turbulent past couple of months. But it’s made me a better creative. I can tap into feelings I never even thought I could experience.
So the next time you speak to the writer in your life, remember that you’re forming a part of their own ability to create art. You have an influence — what will you do with that kind of power?